The toughest part of being a parent is the art of saying NO. And most of us parents have to be consistent about it – no jumping on the couch, no eating on the bed, no turning on the TV and so on. Although at some point kids may feel that they’re not allowed to do anything, the reality is that they are actually learning something from all the Nos, don’ts and stops.
Setting boundaries helps kids to develop a lot of mental and emotional quotient.
Limits help kids feel secure
While kids do throw tantrums, limits help them to stay in place. A child can never know what’s right or wrong. But setting certain limits helps them to realise the extent of boundary they have in various aspects of their life – behaviour, school life, social life, limits with friends and family. Limits help kids decide what is acceptable and unacceptable in various situations of life.
Encourages routine
When a child follows certain house rules or generally acceptable behavioural norms, he usually follows a pattern or routine. This makes life predictable for the child. And when there are no surprises the attitude from the child is also a reasonably acceptable one.
Aids emotional management
Limits tell kids how to behave and where to behave properly and where they can push their leniencies. For instance, a child may be angry or sad in a certain situation at school or social circumstance, but will hold back some emotions till he is in a safe and secure place like home to release it. This allows them to manage their emotions and reduces tantrums.
Teaches what’s acceptable and what’s not
Limits subtly teach a child what is acceptable behaviour from others towards them, and what’s not. This helps them react, or move away from difficult or dangerous situations. For instance, if someone on the playground hits them, they know it’s not ok and that they should stay away or let an adult know.
Increases confidence
When there are limits and they are followed, children know that their parents approve of their behaviour. This helps them to grow into confident young adults who fit into social settings well.
Develops decision making skills
When a child chooses to finish his homework or lessons before going out to play or to watch TV, then make an informed decision that conforms with societal norms. It teaches them to set priorities and also enjoy life simultaneously.
Makes them responsible humans
When kids follow rules they take charge of their lives. They learn to see right from wrong. They make good decisions. They work towards the betterment of society. All in all they become good individuals in the long run.