It’s a simple thought-provoking question. Maybe you would say, ‘I have a child/children, of course, I am happy! It would be an insult to my family to say I’m not happy! I AM happy.’ But, the question is not do you love your children? The question is about your feelings about yourself. It seems there are no black and white answers, but here are a few:
‘The kids are happy so I am happy.’
Recently that I had the happiest summer holiday of my life and yet I didn’t do anything for myself. I enjoyed giving, facilitating and I enjoyed the family’s happiness so much, it genuinely made me happy. Happiness can be truly vicarious.
What is happiness now?
‘It feels different now that I have children. My old happiness was doing things that never which could never have included children, so it’s difficult to redefine it now.’
I’m too wiped out to worry about happy.
‘I’m too tired and busy to know if I’m happy, but I have crazy strong feelings of pride and love for this new life I have created. It’s, which is a new kind of happiness that goes along with this new, generally exhausted condition. Is it so But is it selfish to wish for some of my old life back?’
I have things to do.
‘I have incredible moments of happiness with the children doing very simple things but most of the time it’s the daily grind.’
‘I am truly am happy, I couldn’t wish for more. Why are other parents complaining all the time? Children are a gift, treasure and ENJOY them!’
So much pressure to ‘enjoy the moment’ I can’t see straight.
I’ll be way happier when…
I’ll be happy when they sleep through the night/ when they are at school/when they are more independent/ when they listen to me/ can walk/ can talk/ are doing well at school…………… an endless list. When, when, when, but who knows? You might be? You might not.
Sometimes happiness is not a belly laugh, with tears of laughter, an adrenaline buzz of excitement or even a smile, but warmth or a glow you feel in your heart, your head or your tummy which feels good. Happiness is a subtle enjoyment of things along the way.in our path. Go with it…….
‘What day is it?’ asked Pooh. ‘It’s today,’ squeaked Piglet. ‘My favourite day,’ said Pooh.’
‘I am truly am happy, I couldn’t wish for more. Why are other parents complaining all the time? Children are a gift, treasure and ENJOY them!’
Sara is British and has a Law Degree from there. She studied her MBA in the Netherlands and worked as a banker for five years. She made her ‘biggest career move’ when she became a mother and trailing spouse. Experiencing parenthood in various countries, circumstances and cultures including Prague for the last 2 years, Sara loves to analyse and learn how to make family life the best it can be.